Forgiveness is a choice. “You are choosing to offer compassion and empathy to the person who wronged you.” The following steps can help you develop a more forgiving attitude—and benefit from better emotional and physical health.
Reflect and remember.
That includes the events themselves, and also how you reacted, how you felt, and how the anger and hurt have affected you since.
Empathize with the other person.
For instance, if your spouse grew up in an alcoholic family, then anger when you have too many glasses of wine might be more understandable, says Swartz.
Simply forgiving someone because you think you have no other alternative or because you think your religion requires it may be enough to bring some healing. But one study found that people whose forgiveness came in part from understanding that no one is perfect were able to resume a normal relationship with the other person, even if that person never apologized. Those who only forgave in an effort to salvage the relationship wound up with a worse relationship.
Let go of expectations.
An apology may not change your relationship with the other person or elicit an apology from her. If you don’t expect either, you won’t be disappointed.
Decide to forgive.
Once you make that choice, seal it with an action. If you don’t feel you can talk to the person who wronged you, write about your forgiveness in a journal or even talk about it to someone else in your life whom you trust.
The act of forgiving includes forgiving yourself. For instance, if your spouse had an affair, recognize that the affair is not a reflection of your worth.
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Welcome to the official website of Emmanuel Stephen
Emmanuel is an outstanding Praise and Worship Leader,
and a Songwriter, presently based in the United Kingdom
Emmanuel is currently working on his musical Album project Titled "JESUS" and has released a New Single Track titled “HE REIGNS” on the 10th of July 2017 available on all digital Platforms worldwide.
Emmanuel will be ministering at some events across the UK to promote his musical project.
Info at Event
Emmanuel Stephen is popularly known for His prolific husky vocal Tone.
Born in Lagos Nigeria to a Nigerian Parent from Benue State
As a young child growing up at the Assemblies of God Church he Started singing specials numbers in the church at the age of 7 where his late father was a deacon in the church committee board.
He forged ahead since 2000 to become an excellent Praise and Worship Leader and a music Director in Many RCCG Churches. To mention a few Desire of nations Province, Abuja Nigeria, under the leadership of Pastor Kunle Omotoso, who is currently based in Brooklyn USA.
This gave him the needed inspiration to see the bigger picture. By 2006 he released his first music Album titled “Strange Love”
His unique and courageous charisma on the stage during Praise and Worship had caught the attention and interest of many local churches and senior gospel Artists
Emmanuel is indeed is a great gift to the body of Christ, and perhaps one of Nigeria’s Finest Praise and Worship Leader
Singing for more than 22years of active performance experience, his unique vocal dexterity has seen him work with many Musicians such as Asu Ekiye,
Pst Kingsley Ike, Big Bolaji Olarewaju, Samsong, Pst Moji Alawiye, and many more
He graduated with a Masters Degree in Project Management From Salford Business School Manchester United Kingdom,
And a Bachelor of Science in Economics from Ambrose Alli University Nigeria
With a successful Real estate firm Rehoboth Realtors in Abuja, Nigeria.
His Love for God and passion for music is unparalleled
Married to Dr. Christiana and they are blessed with four Lovely Children
Michelle, Davian, Derrick, and Deitrich.